I believe we are all co-dependent in some ways. We rely and depend on people places and things to make us happy and when they fail, we get upset. Breaking free from co-dependency meant building healthy relationships without relying or depending on others to fulfill or make me happy. It meant letting go or setting boundaries with those whose behaviors left me feeling drained and constantly stressed. Building healthy relationships meant wanting people in my life rather than needing them and being able to accept those people for exactly who they are; flaws and all.
While it is not my place to analyze, diagnose, figure out, understand or judge people, I do feel that it is my responsibility to recognize certain behaviors of people in my life and how those behaviors impact my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. By recognizing a person’s behaviors and how they impact my well-being, I am able to assess where to set the boundary in the relationship.
Today I am learning that I DO NOT NEED to assume or understand the intentions of others, but I DO NEED to assess how their behaviors impact my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being and honor myself by setting healthy limits and boundaries with those individuals.
Let go of trying to figure out another person’s behavior or intentions. Doing this only leaves you feeling angry, confused, anxious and stressed and keeps you from experiencing joy. Instead, recognize and be aware of the behaviors of others and how they impact your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. Set healthy limits and boundaries with those individuals.
Peace and blessings,