Why is it that when we are in the midst of a bad moment or bad day, do we feel that it will never end? I think our brain has this way of tricking us into believing this lie. And when we start feeding this lie, it grows bigger and bigger.
My thinking can be somewhat automatic. Often times I spend my days analizying the world around me; its people, places and things. While I love and appreciate that my brain works this way, it does not always benefit me. Unfortunately my brain is trained to go the the negative. I’ve had to recognize how this way of thinking impacts my mood, my behaviors and my relationships.
Constant analyzing leaves my mood drained and my energy dull. My thinking can become negative which impacts how I view others. When I view others in a negative light, I am more likely to shut down and retreat from the relationship. My behaviors become negative as well. They become about seeking immediate gratification to help soothe my negative feelings. This cycle of negativity leaves me feeling shame and guilt.
I want to live in peace and harmony in the world around me. I want to love people and be able to see the best in them. I want to see the good in everything, even in the bad things. So I had to change my thought process. I had to stop analyzing everything. And I had to adopt a new way of thinking and viewing the world and it’s people. I’ve come to accept that I am going to have good days and bad days.
Take a moment to reflect on the negative thoughts that are flowing into your mind. Make a mental note of them. When you find yourself with racing thoughts that are analytical or negative, acknowledge them. Do not push them out. Do not judge them. Just let them in. After you’ve identified the thoughts, take a moment to restructure the thought to how the situation can turn out positive. You can find good in every situation, whether the situation be an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth or a chance to do something different. Allow for an opportunity to connect and trust in a Higher Power and let go of things beyond your control. If you take time to do this with your thoughts, it will become more and more automatic and instead of feeding and growing a lie, we will feed and grow peace.
Peace and blessings,